Many things we do, we do because it feels good to us, not necessarily because it is the right thing to do.
We can give charitably, or volunteer our time for a cause because it makes us feel good. We can buy a gift for someone just because … because it feels good. We can have a beer instead of water because it feels good.
We can get high on marijuana, and want to remain high because it feels good. And we like to have sex, maybe more than we actually do have it … because it feels good.
What do many of these activities have in common? They make us feel good because they trigger endorphins in our bodies, which give us a feeling of happiness and serenity. Now, can you imagine combining more than one of these things at the same time, and what the endorphin effect may be?
Let’s start with having sex while high on weed … because it feels good. Now, maybe you are not in your right mind while high on dope, but that’s OK. On the one hand, you may be more in touch and aware of your body and the things you like, and you may be more open and honest about those – on the other hand, you may do some silly things that you would never do if you didn’t have the weed. Because inhibitions.
In that vein, here are a few quick tips if you decide to try out the combination of sex while stoned. These tips can help you be honest with yourself and your partner, and yet not be so uninhibited that you do stupid things:
- Don’t do anything you truly don’t want to do.
When you are high, you are not only very aware of the sensations in your body, but you also can have very strong awareness and perception of your partner trying to pressure you or coerce into doing something. You can roll with that and be honest to understand that if you don’t want to do that thing, whatever it is, then don’t. And if he continues to pressure you, it’s OK to tell him to leave.
- Have torturous foreplay.
This simply goes back to the first tip. Act like teenagers during foreplay, even if you have been together for a while. Spend time exploring and teasing each other until you feel like you can’t take it anymore. Then you’ll know you want to do it, so it’ll be OK.
- Live in the moment, no matter how slow it seems.
It’s easier to enjoy the sensations of sex when you think only about the moment you are currently in, and you don’t let your mind wander. Also, your mind tends to go a little slower anyway, so your sex activity should be moving at a similar pace. This makes it easier to enjoy the moment when our bodies aren’t moving faster than your brain can register. Enjoy each other, completely.
Did you know that breathing can actually turn you on even more? Yes, apparently blood flows to the genitals while you are working on breathing deeply, so work on that during sex. Not only can it arouse you, but breathing helps you focus on the moment, and even trying to coordinate your breathing with your partner may enhance some of the movements and sensations you have during sex. It’s at least something to consider.
Of course, these tips aren’t anything particularly telling – these same tips can help make sober sex better, but maybe it’s just that it’s a little harder to do these while high. But if you keep these in mind, either way, you can have a very good experience … because it feels good.